So, this past weekend was just about the end of me.
It started on Wednesday that things just were not in sync. For all of my efforts of meeting with an executive within the Victory Nutrition organization, to some things happening with my kids at their school, nothing seemed to be going right.
During this stretch, my business was going through a bit of a lull and processes just seemed off. I was quite frustrated with…well everything! It is the first time in a very long time that I just felt like I wasn’t in control. The negative thoughts started to roll in – they saw an opening. My primal underman first asked: “What are you doing this for? Why fight and struggle to educated people? If they don’t get it, it’s their fault. You’ve paid your dues, understand and can go further without dead weight and a heavy burden…forget them!”
Speaking frankly – this depressed the shit out of me! Yes me….depressed. Think I’m lying? How many tweets did you see from me Thursday thru Sunday? Facebook posts? My Webcast had to be cancelled on Thursday. I was in the toilet as far as my motive and conviction to continue on this road that I have been on for the better part of 6 years. So I did what some with less insight to these bigger questions do….I crawled up into my bed and watched tv. Yep…..me and the bed and blu ray high definition!
There I stayed with the exception of picking my kids up from school and those chores that are required. Short of that, I wasn’t much use to anyone let alone myself.
Saturday, my mood was actually slightly better but not much. I spent the bulk of the day trying to figure out what I was going to do with the rest of my life. Yes, you read that right, I had subconsciously already decided to move on. My paradigm had completely switched just like that!
Then I began to think about how I got started in fitness. Ordering my grappling mats and dummies from Combat sports International for my home gym. Training endless hours and believing in myself when nobody else did. Reading up on foods and exercises that provided the best results. Requesting a personal trainers certification manual from the National Federation of Professional Trainers (NFPT) and International Fitness Association (IFA) – I ended up getting certified through both associations. Understanding that my purpose wasn’t so much about mixed martial arts, but more about helping others understand their potential. My jiu jitsu training suffered many years because my focus was on my personal training and nutrition certification and starting a fitness business. Then I had the notion to open my own gym…
By Saturday evening I understood how badly I allowed myself to get, but also how freakin strong I was mentally! I started out on a quest to help others with their fitness, nutrition and the conditioning of their minds to withstand anything that wasn’t in alignment with their dreams and goals. Now the question was: “What’s my next move?”
So enter Sunday, a day devoted to the LaRochester men, my son and I. What do you know, he wants to watch Transformers – wow big surprise! I get him off Power Rangers and now addicted to Transformers! – Talk about can’t catch a break! Well, in one of the movies, there is a point where the character “Sam” has to revive Optimus Prime with the matrix of leadership. It is his will and belief in the “ideal” that somehow all will be done because he won’t quit until Optimus is revived! That was the spark or thing to snap me all the way back. See, when I write posts to you, it’s not that I am superhuman…I have my days and moments as well. It is always how you recover and gain clarity on the things that will truly define you by pushing you further to accomplish and persevere or bury you where you stand.
I want you to know that if I can look within myself and understand that my “feelings” almost caused me to make a huge mistake, you could be doing the same in your life as well. Take your time and get clear on why you would continue to do – or not do something. Be sure that it is rational and not emotional…there is a huge difference. Keep your feelings on the surface and make an informed decision about your life’s work. These are the times to know what you are made of and what your contribution to society is. If you have a quality let it define you…whatever it is. I almost quit on my quality of devotion to helping others because of my feelings. Be thankful for a strong mind to keep you in the game even when you have one foot out. I am deeply thankful today.
Thank you for reading. Have a great week!
Today I want to share a simple idea that can cause massive change and take you from suffering to becoming an ultimate winner in life. Whenever you feel like life is not producing the results that you desire, there is one primary reason for this – you. It can be a number of things:
You haven’t taken action beyond your comfort zone
Busy pointing fingers at others not supporting your aspirations
Lacking motivation and a true plan to accomplish
Waiting for someone else to do the work for you…
You get my point right?
Listen, no matter where you are in life, you can change it. I want you to close your eyes and first picture your ideal reality. Now I want you to imagine that reality unfolding. You need an ever-present imprint of that vision.
Do you have it? Great!
Now, channel your efforts to completing this ONE thing that will change your current reality…ready? Here it is….
The iteration – or your present mental paradigm is not producing the results that you desire. The only way to accomplish and achieve is to have an interation of yourself that is ambitious and has the “vision” to produce the reality and outcome that is nessasary for you to win in life. No exceptions, no excuses, NO SETTLING FOR LESS THAN YOU DESERVE! If the next iteration resorts to a lazy, pointing fingers position….you guessed it – fire them too! Just realize that you can become whomever you truly desire to be. If you want it bad enough and all of your energy is placed in that direction allowing nothing to deter you – YOU WILL WIN. It won’t be easy, but the rewards of life and accomplishment will be more than worth it!
Once you fully understand who you are, and more importantly who you can ultimately become, the world is no bigger than a piece of clay in the palm of your hand – you can make it and mold it into whatever you wish. I will leave you with something that you should read a couple of times this weekend to reinforce what I have provided you. Here it is:
The Captain of the gate:
“To every man upon this earth
Death cometh soon or late.
And how can man die better
Than facing fearful odds
For the ashes of his fathers
And the temples of his gods
Horatius at the Bridge (Click to the left for the entire work)
Thomas Babington, Lord Macaulay (1800–1859)
Have an awesome weekend!
Yours In Success,
A positive self image is one that we should all strive for. This is when you know yourself and who you are. You have a very true perception of your size, shape, and weight. You see yourself as you are in the present. You accept yourself, even though you may be overweight. You believe in yourself and love yourself while still striving for something better. When you have a positive self image, no time is spent obsessing about food, weight, calories, exercise, etc. You are proud of who you are and feel comfortable in your own body.
Many people that suffer from binge eating disorder do not have positive self or body images. Instead, they have very distorted images of how they see themselves. Here are six ways to create a positive self image for yourself.
1. Create a list of people that you admire. Write down why you admire each person. As you are writing the characteristics you like, take notice of what you are writing down.
For example, let’s say that you have a high regard for Donald Trump. Your list might include his ability to bounce back from near bankruptcy to reclaiming billionaire status, his willingness to support what he believes in, and his strong character that went for success no matter what background he came from. You do not admire “The Donald” because of his looks or hair for that matter; you admire him for the difference that he has commanded in the world. For his contribution to society. How he has touched and changed so many lives.
2. Remember a time in your life when you felt great about yourself.
Travel back in your life to a time when you were happy with your body. Maybe this was high school or college. Whatever the time, just close your eyes and remember how you felt. Let these good feelings radiate within you.
3. Write down what you like about yourself now.
Take out a piece of paper and write down everything that you like about yourself: your legs, your eyebrows, your smile, your hair, etc. The key here is to focus on the likes of yourself instead of the many dislikes. Start appreciating what you do like about yourself. This will make you feel better overall.
4. Notice how you carry yourself when you walk.
Do you walk with your head down looking at the ground? Do you slump your shoulders? Perk up! Start walking and making eye contact with people. Hold your head up high. Walk with your shoulders held back.
5. Start exercising.
If you haven’t exercised in a while, start off slow. Go for a walk outside on a nice day. If you are used to exercising, keep it up and change up your routine so that you don’t get bored. When you exercise you begin to feel good about yourself, even if it is for 15 minutes. Start off slow and work your way up.
6. Hang out with positive people.
Take a look at the people closest to you. Are they positive or negative people? Chances are if they are negative this attitude will reflect on you and your attitude. Try to limit your time with any negativity as this will only make you feel bad about yourself. You will focus on the things that you do not like about yourself.
Start feeling good about yourself and learn to accept yourself. Little by little you will notice changes that have occurred. Learn to be on your side instead of always being against yourself. Put your shoulders back and quit thinking about what you’re not. Love the person you are and the person that you are becoming.
Take action on the steps above and see how great you can make yourself!
Yours In Success,
“I can’t seem to discover why I’m on the planet.”
“What is my purpose here? I know there’s something I’m supposed to be doing, but I don’t know how to find out what it is.”
“I don’t seem to be passionate about anything.”
I’ve heard these complaints over and over from my clients.
Discovering our passion and purpose is vital to our joy and well-being. The problem is that many people have lost touch with any sense of their passion and purpose and have no idea how to access this information.
The blueprint for this information lies within our core Self, our essence, the true Self that is often buried during our early years. If our true Self was not seen and validated by our parents, teachers, or other caregivers, it is likely to have gone underground. The self many of know as our “self” is generally our wounded self, our ego, the self we created to get love and avoid pain. Our wounded self has within it all of our fears and false beliefs, and does not have access to what is true for us.
How, then, do we discover our passion and purpose if the blueprint for this information is long buried? The good news is that while it is buried, it is not lost. Anyone can reclaim this information if you are willing to do the inner work of healing your wounded self.
I’ve worked with many of my clients who, as they practice the Mental Fitness process that I teach (email me for my FREE coaching course at Jeremy.firstname.lastname@example.org), gradually heal their fears and false, limiting beliefs to the point where their true Self comes peeking out. This is the vital, alive aspect of ourselves, the aspect of us that just wants to joyfully express ourselves in the world. As you allow this aspect to emerge, you will gradually discover what truly brings you joy.
In our society, we tend to ignore our special talents and choose our careers according to what will give us a sense of security. Too often, however, what makes us feel safe does not fulfill us spiritually. For example, a client of mine, Roger Klinger who worked for many years as an attorney, but he never enjoyed it. He made lots of money, yet when he consulted with me he was suffering from anxiety and depression. He had become an attorney because his father had been an attorney and wanted Roger to follow in his footsteps. Roger had gone along with what his father wanted for him because he didn’t know what else he wanted and now, in midlife, he was miserable. He yearned to discover his passion.
A few months after starting Mental Fitness, Roger remembered that he had really wanted to be a teacher. He had never seriously considered teaching because he felt he couldn’t make enough money, but now he was willing to make far less money because he was so unhappy with his present work. Roger went back to school and got his teaching credential and is now a high school social studies teacher in Escondido, CA. The last time I spoke with him he was radiant! He loved working with adolescents, and he felt he was making a real contribution to their lives. For the first time ever, he felt alive and passionate about his life. His wife decided to take up some of the financial slack by doing something she had always wanted to do: design children’s clothing. She started her own mail-order business and is thrilled with it. Their marriage and family life is flourishing because both of them are happy and fulfilled within themselves.
While it may not always be possible to change your work immediately to something you love, if you follow your passion, it will often lead you there. And even when you have to earn money in ways that do not express your soul, you can seek volunteer opportunities and hobbies to express who you are. Often these can lead to the work that you will eventually do.
Your soul has a deep desire for you to express yourself in ways that brings you joy. It is your job to discover what that is and to bring it about.
Yours In Success,
Hey whats going on?
I’m super pumped today because we’re one day closer to Super Bowl 49! Adding to my excitement is an article from a very talented (and lovely might I add!) writer and entrepreneur Stephanie Rossettos about shoes for fitness. You can check it out here – Steps Shoes Stand
Stephanie is a testament to dedication and belief in one’s self. The power of “I Can, I Will, I Must” is evident in her daily actions of being the very best that she can be. Stephanie is one example of outstanding people that understand the level of sacrifice that comes with great expectations.
I challenge you this Thursday to cast away any doubts and fears and become the best you can be. No matter what your situation, it can be done if you want it bad enough.
Once again, here’s the link to Steps Shoes Stand
Have an Awesome Day!
While entirely fictional, the enigmatic concept knowns as “The Force” is based on some very real principles. In the movie, Star Wars, the “Force” is often spoken of by members of a religious order called the Jedi. The warrior-priests of the Jedi Order served as the main proponents of what they believed to be the core concepts of The Force.
The concept and the order are fictional, but the principles by which the Jedi lived their lives are excellent guides to living one’s life, especially amidst all the chaos of the modern world. For as long as the “Dark Side” of The Force is equated not to evil but to negative influences in one’s life, the principles of the Jedi Code can easily be used to form a personal philosophy for living a good life, complete with a healthy mental attitude. Below you’ll find the core principles of the Jedi philosophy, and some ideas on how they can be adapted to the trials and tribulations of modern life.
There is no emotion; there is peace.
Being able to control one’s emotions was critical to a Jedi, as their tasks often required that they remain as objective as possible. Fear and anxiety can have negative effects on one’s decision-making, which in turn can wreak havoc on one’s life. By taking control of one’s stress and anxiety, separating it from the tasks that need to be done, you can effectively find better solutions to your problems than you would have if you let your anxiety affect your analysis of the situation. This concept does not advise denying one’s emotions, since doing so can result in more anxiety disorders and psychological issues than it solves. It merely says that people should let logic and analysis guide their decisions, not their feelings.
There is no ignorance; there is knowledge.
The Jedi Order espoused the determined pursuit of knowledge. To support the quest for enlightenment, they built a grand library that contained volumes of information on various topics and disciplines that were necessary to educate and train a Jedi. They also shared that knowledge, to better enlighten the same people they were attempting to protect. Many problems with anxiety and phobias can be alleviated if people just took the time to understand things. A little knowledge can help someone overcome the fear and anxiety that one encounters when exposed to a totally alien culture. In some cases, anxiety disorders can also be overcome simply by equipping one’s mind with sufficient knowledge about the source of the anxiety, thus allowing a person to better understand and face the problem.
There is no passion; there is serenity.
Similar to the first principle, the Jedi believed that being too passionate about something was dangerous, as it could cloud one’s judgment and objectivity. For people in their position, objectivity was critical in nearly all situations. The same can be said of pretty much anyone in the modern world. Emotions and passion can cloud our ability to make good decisions, as well as have an adverse effect on our ability to recognize our mistakes and correct them to avert further damage. Being calm amidst the face of an impossible bureaucracy can go a long way to keeping one’s state of mental health stable and far away from “going postal.” As long as you don’t let your stress and anxiety build up by dwelling on the negative,then your mind is serene and you can then make better decisions and take a clearer look at what is going on in one’s life.
There is no death, there is only The Force.
The Jedi believed that when someone dies, they become one with The Force. This allowed them to see death not as a negative event, but merely a transition that one was inevitably going to get past. Adapting this to modern life, negative events can be portrayed as the “death” the philosophy mentions, with “The Force” acting as a metaphor for life itself. In other words, it is basically stating that, regardless of all the negative events in one’s life, regardless of all the fear and anxiety, the nausea induced by corporate and familial duties, there is still life itself. To use one metaphor to explain another, if something bad comes your way, take some time out to stop and smell the roses. Your entire life will not be dictated by one car crash or an unfair termination. Life goes on and moves on, and so should you.
Taking all of the above principles into account, it is difficult to see how they could fail to lead to a better state of mind, even amidst the chaos of modern life. That is, if they are followed like a personal philosophy and not taken as mere guidelines. Besides, if one espouses the opposite of the above principles, one is liable to burn out to quickly.
Thank you for allowing me to get my Star Wars philosophy out!
May The Force Be With You – Always
Yours in Success,
How’s your New Year shaping up so far?
I wanted to tell you that deep down we all have greatness to acheive, but overcoming rejection and fear prevents us from realizing it.
When I was very young I loved to watch movies. Actually when I have time I still enjoy a good one now! Not just any movie, but those that had an underdog or the loser. Characters that had to look inside and confront their fears to become greater. I went through the same hopeless situations as many in the movies….the same as many of you!
For all the years I worked for someone else, minding the company’s assets, I always wanted more out of myself. In order for that to happen I knew I had to do something drastic – I Had To Quit My Job!
I’m not suggesting you do the same, however for me to reach my goals and realize my objective thats what was required. I struggled, cried, asked myself why I couldn’t just “be like everybody else?” Then my Overman (The name that Nietzsche gives to our higher consciousness) said to me, “It is not your destiny to just be – you must endure, persist, fight, bleed….whatever it takes to reach the goal.”
Once I put self sabotage in a box and buried it, I knew that I would now “Eat Lightning and Crap Thunder!” I would control my destiny and if I didnt reach them it was my fault and mine alone!
Whatever it is that you wish to become or acheive, you’ll never reach that place until you put fear and doubt in a grave and push beyond what you think you are capable of.
If you ever need someone to talk to, to support you in a mindset transition, help your accountability, call me and together, you as Rocky and me as Mickey will show “Creed” (life) – it won’t know what hit it!
Have an Awesome Saturday Stallion!
Self-talk is the internal conversation that you have with yourself. Believe it or not, the way you talk to yourself can have a big influence on how you feel and act.
That’s why it is so important to be aware of the conversations you have with yourself about physical activity and your fitness abilities. It can have an impact on your performance and whether or not you stick to your plan.
Don’t set yourself up to fail by thinking things like, “I’ve never been very athletic, so there’s no way I’m going to be able to keep up this exercise routine.”
Fortunately, you can turn negative self-talk into realistic, positive thoughts.
Below are some examples of how to turn negative conversations with yourself into positive, encouraging thoughts.
Next time you find yourself having negative thoughts about exercise, make an effort drop the negativity and turn it into positive self-talk.
Distorted Thoughts and Positive Alternatives
All or Nothing
I didn’t walk every day last week. I’m an exercise failure.
I walked 4 out of 7 days last week; some exercise is always better than none.
Disqualifying the Positive
The only reason I parked far away from the entrance to the store was because I couldn’t find a closer spot.
I like to walk; it is a good, healthy activity for me to do.
I can’t run, so I can’t get enough exercise to do me any good.
I’m glad I decided to get out an walk. Some exercise is better than nothing!
My doctor wants me to have a foot evaluation before I start doing more activity. That must mean exercise is bad for my feet.
Because I have diabetes, I always have to take very good care of my feet. I’m glad that my doctor is making sure that the activity I do is right for me.
The weatherman has something against me. I was planning to walk, but it has been raining cats and dogs all day long. I just can’t win.
You can never really predict the weather, so I’m glad I have a plan for doing exercise indoors on rainy days like today.
I hope this helps you going forward and kick starts an awesome weekend. Have a great day!
Below is a poll that I would like your feedback on. It will speak maybe to the heart of an issue or problem that you’ve had or presently have. If you wouldn’t mind sharing, complete the poll and leave me a comment on how you were able to overcome and press on. I hope you are all having a wonderful day!
Born To Succeed ► Motivational Video: http://youtu.be/Lbm0xgCAibE
Just thought you might need a kick in the pants on this throw back Thursday. Check out the video and get to work on yourself! Have a great day!