I just wanted to rap with you for a few minutes on this saturday afternoon about what is holding you back. I consider you a close friend and would like to think that you will still respect me after I tell you some things that might upset you and/or piss you off.
You will never succeed in life by being a yes man, going with the flow, not causing problems, making others happy before yourself, being the ultimate respectful one, kind and overly generous. None of these life traits will lead to success in your life. There are moments and times when you should exhibt all that are mentioned, however the reason why doing these things now are futile in your current state is because of you primary issue: Your Circle Of Influence.
We are the sum total of the 5 individuals that are in our immediate circle of influence. These individuals most likely operate from a mindset of fear, scarcity, self sabotage, ignorance, false sense of security…you get my point. They will have almost no use for you other than what you may be able to do for them. More times than not, your progress will be brought to a halt or even push you back further to fulfill an agenda of theirs that is not in alignment with yours. This is self defeating. Les Brown states that there are “More Dreams and Ideas that people have taken to the grave with them.” Mostly due to fear, albeit self imposed or that “suggestive fear” from the Circle of Influence. There is a way that this destructive process can be corrected and it is done in the most direct and blatent way. Ready for the solution? – GET RID OF THEM….ALL OF THEM!
Motivational Speaker Eric Thomas says it best: “You can’t ask ordinary people to be phenominal, you can’t ask average people to be phenominal, you just are phenominal and you will attract phenominal.”
When you have a goal or dream that you desire more than anything in the world, when your “why” can not be denied, you can either wade amongst those that are scared to pursue their dreams, or you can tell them to piss off while you pursue yours. One of two things is going to occur: 1. Either you will be stuck in the mediocre life that someone else is projecting on you or 2. You will focus on the things that will make you happy, give you the life that you seek and accomplish and tell those that live in fear to leave you alone. They are crabs that mean you more harm than good.
Here is the hard part for you to accept and complete if you really want to win. Those crabs that you should get far from are usually: husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, mother, father, brother, sister, best friend, co-workers. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. See, there are some people in the world that when asked what they would do for success, their answer is, “I’ll do anything.” Then there are others that get asked that question, reply with the same answer, learn that the crabs keeping them from success are within that group I mentioned and you know what they do? Nothing. They remain in mediocrity. Why? Fear of losing those that would otherwise keep you from accomplishing, succeeding in life.
I don’t want this to be you. I feel like you’ve come too far to be controlled and provided a detour to obscurity. I love the movie Talladega Nights with Will Ferrill. The most notable saying in that movie: “If You’re Not First, You’re Last.” Everybody remembers a winner…nobody remembers last place. Don’t you want to be remembered?
I know that at this point you’re probably a bit bothered with me so I will just say a few more words and just anger you. Yes, make you angry. There are few things in life that can not be replaced and with that concept you should never feel like you can’t pick up and start over. Do not play games you can’t win… The only no win situation in life is the one you decide to stay in. With the exception of your parents and children everybody else…EVERYBODY ELSE can either be eliminated or replaced..PERIOD.
You hold the key to your ultimate success…are you going to decide to drive your dream or will you be a passenger in your life allowing others to navigate you on a path to nowhere?
Thanks For Reading